Today I finally answer the age old question, “Kidney stones vs childbirth, which is more painful?” I share a comparison between my two experiences and explain why I believe that, between the two, there is a very clear winner.
I decided instead of writing my story that I would tell it. Enjoy!
In my recording I said, “Pain without purpose is suffering.” I was completely thinking that it must have been said by some Zen master, philosopher, or personal development guru, but I found nothing! Awesome! If google has nothing, then I am pretty sure we can all conclude that this is my own deep thought! I am so excited! I didn’t know this was happening today!
If we are not finding purpose in our lives, then our struggles, difficulties, trials and hardships feel worthless and agonizing. As we find purpose, our burdens our lightened, our pain is diminished, and we can move forward recognizing that miracles are unfolding.
Here are a couple of great quotes and scriptures about this concept.
Harold B. Lee said:
“We can be thankful, even for pain. I went to the home of a good old bishop who had lived a faithful, devoted life. He was now stricken. He had to sit half-sitting up in a chair. And he said to me something as we talked about his long illness: “You know, I thank God every day I lie here in pain. I thank Him for the pain that I suffer now.” And that was strange. I asked him why he felt that way, and he said, “Because I feel that the more I suffer, the more I’m able to claim kinship to Him who gave His life that men might be.” Now, that was a simple statement from a simple man, but it may contain within the germ of a philosophy as to why pain.”
Spencer W. Kimball said:
“Being human, we would expel from our lives, sorrow, distress, physical pain, and mental anguish and assure ourselves of continual ease and comfort. But if we close the doors upon such, we might be evicting our greatest friends and benefactors. Suffering can make saints of people as they learn patience, long-suffering, and self-mastery. The sufferings of our Savior were part of his education.”
“…notwithstanding our many strugglings, which have been in vain; yet I trust there remaineth an effectual [def. successful in producing a desired or intended result; effective] struggle to be made. Therefore, lift up your heads, and rejoice, and put your trust in God.”
Huruki Murakami said:
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
Victor Frankl said:
“We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed. For what then matters is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a personal tragedy into a triumph, to turn one’s predicament into a human achievement. When we are no longer able to change a situation—just think of an incurable disease such as inoperable cancer—we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Wayne Dyer said:
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”